Being Selfish Doesn’t Make a Commitment Phobic a Narcissist

I received a comment a few weeks ago that really made me think. The comment related to my post on cycling behavior and the suggestion was that narcissism and commitment phobia had to be on the same spectrum because of how cold a phobic can become during the separation part of the cycle. Although I … More Being Selfish Doesn’t Make a Commitment Phobic a Narcissist

Does my INTJ Personality Contribute to my Commitment Phobia? 

The short answer is of course it does, at least by the commonly accepted definition of a commitment phobic. For those who don’t know what I am talking about the INTJ refers to my personality type according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. The first time I took a personality test and read what this profile … More Does my INTJ Personality Contribute to my Commitment Phobia? 

If You Want a Secure Relationship try a Day to Day LAT Relationship

I suppose the reason I am so intrigued by relationships is I have come to see them as a giant puzzle that can’t be solved. So when I come across a piece that just doesn’t even fit in the puzzle I become even more intrigued and I have to examine it.  One such piece is … More If You Want a Secure Relationship try a Day to Day LAT Relationship

Why Commitment Phobics Exhibit Cycling Behavior

Cycling behavior is unfortunately something I have a lot of first hand experience with and it is not pleasant. The result is instability in a relationship and it has caused my girlfriends to feel like they were on an emotional roller coaster.  The root cause of my behavior is the combination of being a commitment … More Why Commitment Phobics Exhibit Cycling Behavior