I chose this title because it is indicative of how my mind raced when I was with my ex girlfriend. I spent a lot of time and I mean a lot of time trying to figure things out. Some of the other posts have sent me down a path that I thought I would share.
I keep reading about Narcissistic men that were very inconsistent. Well my ex girlfriend was the opposite. She was very consistent except in one area. Let me elaborate.
She knew exactly what she wanted. She wanted to be married to a man that would give her 100% of his available time. She accepted that he would work but other than that they would be together. He would like to go shopping and watching Dances with the Stars but have no interest in sports. If he fell short of her expectations she was entitled to get angry and yell. She said she had never felt guilt so there were never any apologies. Oh and she never felt compassion so doing volunteer things was just silly. It was really very simple and consistent.
Well there was one area of inconsistency at least in my eyes. I couldn’t find the common thread of things that made her angry.
So I was the one that was inconsistent. In fact I was a mess. I struggled and analyzed and ran away and came back. In fact I wondered if I was a narcissist. However an article said that if you wonder if you are a narcissist you probably aren’t. They don’t analyze themselves.
I think what it boils down to is that there are definite gender differences between men and women narcissists. In fact I have some thoughts bouncing around in my head which I will share in my next post.